"This made me act like a muted version of myself"
As a coloured person in Belgium I often bumped into this. Knowing this growing up changed my personality in a big way, in a very negative to myself way. I’ve always been a people pleaser, and this was taken to the extreme when I entered every conversation with the notion someone might view me in a certain way because of my colour. This made me act like a muted version of myself, and I kinda lost myself in that. Now that I’ve realised this I’m slowly getting to know myself again. And I’m done changing myself for other people’s comfort!